Christine Caine, an amazing woman of God and speaker/author, wrote:
It was my mother’s seventieth birthday party. Within a span of hours, I was characterized by different people in a variety of ways. To one, I was my mom’s only daughter; to another I was Nick’s wife; to another, I was Catherine and Sophia’s mom; to another, I was George’s sister. Some old friends considered me the “weird one” who had “got religion,” and friends from church know me as a Bible teacher and author.
While it’s true that the way each of the partygoers identified me is a legitimate aspect of the various roles I fulfill in life, none of these roles is who I really am.
If we allow ourselves to be defined by our roles instead of allowing who we truly are in Christ to define our roles, we’re going to get all messed up.
No one role completely defines us. In other words, who you are is not determined by what you do; that is, your do is not your who!
If we try to get our identity, significance and security from the roles we play, ultimately our lives become focused upon mere functionality and doing more, rather than something deeper.
So the question we need to ask ourselves is this: When no one is calling us parent, spouse, sibling, mentor, boss or friend, who is left?
“... I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are mine.” (Isaiah 43:1)
We are REDEEMED!
Redeem - to buy back; to free from what distresses or harms; to free from captivity by payment of ransom; to release from blame or debt; to free from the consequences of sin; repair, restore; to make good.
Don't look to your "roles" for security in life or validation. You are who God says you are, BECAUSE of Jesus.